Firstly, be clear on what you like/want from your sex life, so you can have an open conversation with your partner. Lead with positives, when approaching them, be mindful that they want to make you happy and they may have their own insecurities. Use foreplay as an opportunity to tell them what you like and want them to do to you.

If you are often nervous to bring things up even after a long time together, you may need to do some deeper work on your communication in general.

Couples sometimes assume sexual incompatibility means the relationship should end, but don’t actively try to work on it. Sex can always get better if you talk about it. Sexual communication is important in long-term partnerships as well as casual relationships.

It takes practice to learn about how someone’s body works and responds to stimulation. Part of sexual communication is learning to take feedback from a partner on board without having it shatter your ego. Try to be grateful your partner feels safe enough to share how they feel, it’s a sign of a good relationship!

Sexual communication is not only asking for what you want but also feeling confident enough to tell a partner what you don’t want. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable speaking up, especially to minimise the risk of sexual coercion or unwanted pain during sex. It can feel difficult and awkward at first but the more you practice sexual communication, the easier it becomes.

Learning to ask for what you want sexually is good practice for communicating about other sex and relationship topics such as STI status or the dreaded “What are we?” question. Talking about sex and telling your partner what you do and don’t like sets a foundation of communication within your relationship more generally. When approached with care, expressing how you feel and setting boundaries with a partner will improve your sex life.

Edging is a tantalising way to enhance pleasure during partnered sex for a number of reasons. If a couple is wanting to spend more time on sex before the penis-owner finishes, or even if a person with a penis is struggling with premature ejaculation, edging is a great habit to get into. Edging is also a fun way to tease your partner by denying their orgasm! 

Simply edging is when you feel you are going to orgasm and you pull back, change the rhythm, and slow down to prolong the feeling. Rinse and repeat! Add a sex toy for extra fun and challenge!

Toys are a great way to mix things up in the bedroom and inspire some creativity rather than sticking to your same routine. They’re not a replacement for partners or a sign that things are going wrong.

They offer completely different sensations that aren’t available through hands alone. There’s no shame in using a vibrator or other sex toy together, in fact over 85% of couples have more fun with sex toys.

Have an open discussion and do some research on what is available check out our guides

Mutual masturbation is when you masturbate in front of a partner while they masturbate in front of you. It can also be when you and a partner masturbate each other at the same time (A.K.A. simultaneous hand stuff). The bottom line is, that masturbation doesn’t always have to be an activity you do alone!

One of our top foreplay tips is taking more time than usual to kiss your partner and slowly removing their clothes. This will have them craving your touch and make it even more pleasurable when they finally get it.

Massage and gentle bodily touch is a turn on for many. Our bodies crave intimacy and skin to skin contact, and massage is a way to honour that. Massage helps relax the body, and relaxation is the first step to becoming aroused.

Go down, give head, lick out, suck off, give a mouth job, give a blow job - however you refer to cunnilingus (on a vulva) and fellatio (on a penis), oral sex is one of the most satisfying and intimate sexual acts you can perform on, or receive from, your partner.

Top tips for penis pleasure

• Take the penis in and out shallowly, but with stiffish tongue pokes and press against the end of the penis
• The focus should definitely be on the head. Stroke the shaft at the same time or use your mouth to bob up and down to enhance the sensation.
• Start by tickling the balls with your hands and tongue, before licking the underside of the penis from the base all the way up to the frenulum.
• Regularly check in with your partner to understand what is working

Top tips for vulva pleasure

• Variety, multiple types of stimulation, and pressure are important! Stroke and nibble the inner thighs. Run your thumbs along the labia before spreading them so you can focus on the most sensitive bits.
• Run your tongue or finger from clit to vagina, teasing the opening before sucking on the clit and adding two fingers inside
• A mix of hands and mouth is great combo. Use the mouth to stimulate the clitoris, while you use your fingers to stimulate the g-spot, magic!

Squirting happens when there is a build-up of pressure against the urethral sponge. This can occur from clitoral and G-spot stimulation, as these areas press up against the urethra when aroused. Squirting may happen during fingering, penetrative sex, G-spot stimulation, a blended orgasm or even while using your Empress 2.

Relaxation is a key aspect of squirting orgasms, so ensure you stay comfortable as you prepare. Ask your partner to pay special attention to your breasts and nipples with gentle kisses, licks and nibbles, before heading south.

Zone in on the clitoris and coax an orgasm with fingers, a tongue or indeed a clitoral vibrator, to get you nice and wet and most definitely in the mood for the next step.

Once you're suitably aroused you can get to work on your G-spot. Find it with your fingers or ideally, a toy coated with water-based lubricant, 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall.

Feeling the need to pee? You're almost there! Push on through and this uncomfortable feeling should be replaced with a sensation from deep within that builds beautifully to orgasm.

As you feel yourself climax, push out your PC muscles (pubococcygeal/pelvic floor muscles), which will in turn relax the Skene's glands, and get you gushing.

Whether you’re a first timer or an anal addict, you should always warm up with some backdoor play. Get your partner to use a little lube and massage the entrance with their finger. This will help you relax and get used to the feeling of those nerves being stimulated. Take it slow and use plenty of lube!

Before experimenting with talking dirty or dirty texts, it’s important to discuss with your partner any limits they might have or topics they’d rather avoid. That way, you can both go into it feeling as comfortable as possible.

Equally, if either of you find it too much at any point, it’s fine to dial it back a bit and take a break. It’s not for everyone, and you may find it’s not for you.

Part of the fun of dirty chat is getting your partner all hot under the collar, and that means finding out what they like, and what turns them on.

It could be a secret threesome fantasy that they’d love to hear you describe outloud, or it could be telling them in detail exactly how you want them to pleasure you… whatever it is, play on it, and expect things to heat up very quickly!

If you’re enjoying it, let your partner know! After all, there’s nothing hotter than knowing your other half is aroused by the things you’re saying and doing...

When thinking of dirty things to say, it can be really exciting to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do to you.

Start off slow with things like kisses, strokes and touches, before getting into the truly naughty details… Do you want them to do you from behind? Have you been keen to try rimming?

So long as they’re comfortable, open minded and keen to hear your deepest desires, you can take your dirty chat anywhere you want it to go...

If you’re planning an at-home date night, why not try out some dirty dares?

You could agree on some naughty forfeits (like taking off an item of clothing) or involve toys like blindfolds and handcuffs to really heat things up.

Roleplay is a great way to try something new with a partner, while exploring a different side of your sexuality. You never know what type of sex roleplay will inspire. 

Start by making a ‘yes/no/maybe’ list with your partner, bouncing off ideas together. It’s a good opportunity to be honest and discover both where you are aligned and where you aren’t.

You can also look for inspiration on erotica websites, audio books and other platforms.

Treat it light-heartedly and remember to laugh. This is all about play, but sometimes we can have a tendency to take things too seriously and this can mean we get stuck and can feel uncomfortable.

Hold your roles lightly and remember the goal is fun!

Often associated with kissing and biting (hello hickeys!), the neck can be a super sensitive area. You can stimulate with your hands, whether it’s a strong massage around the lower neck towards the shoulders, or a gentle tracing of the fingertips along the neck towards the collarbone.

Another hot spot for kissing and biting, the ears are a very sensitive area for some. Whether it’s an intimate tuck of the hair behind the ear, or a sensual nibble on the lobes, the ears can feel sexier than you might have once thought. Experiment with kissing, sucking, blowing, stroking, nibbling, or gently breathing onto the ear. An added bonus would be getting up close and personal for some dirty talk!

Nipples are a popular erogenous zone to explore during sex. But let’s get one thing straight — nipple play has no gender or sexuality. For those with a menstrual cycle, the phase of your cycle or whether you’re pregnant can affect nipple sensitivity. You can stimulate with fingertips, tongues, or sex toys, the opportunities are endless. Each person will like a different amount of pressure on their nipples.

The inner thighs are so sensitive and oh-so-close to the ultimate erogenous zone that even just a graze can set your loins ablaze. Run your fingertips down the front of the thighs, slowly moving your way inward while you kiss their lips, neck, and chest. You can also use a toy’s vibrations to add excitement and anticipation.

The clit is more than just a little button at the top of the vulva, it’s a whole entire network inside the body. Shaped like a wishbone, the clitoral network sits around the vagina and even becomes erect (yes, like a penis). ​​Use fingers, hands, or a vibrator to do rubbing, circling, tapping, stroking, figure eight or pulsing motions. We recommend the Empress 2 clitoral suction vibrator for clitoral orgasms!

The G Spot can be found internally within the vagina on the vaginal wall that faces the stomach. Everyone’s anatomy is different, so this could be located anywhere within 1-3 inches from the vaginal opening.

The big secret about the G Spot is that it's less of its own distinct spot and actually just the back of the clitoris. When the clitoris becomes erect, it presses up against the vaginal walls, which is why the G Spot can only be located once the body is aroused.

Hit the spot with Myth G Spot vibrator

Both kneel on the bed or floor one in front of the other with back against chest. You can touch and feel in this intimate pose

Lay down whilst your partner reverse straddles leaning forward and then sit up.  Your partner can cross their legs behind you and start rocking!

One partner lies on their back while the partner lies diagonally to their partner's body to pleasure them.

Both partners sit on the bed, sofa or floor opposite each other. You both lean back on your hands and cross your legs. In this position, you can rub yourselves, and masturbate either at the same time or in turns.

You sit with your legs wide open. Your partner lies in front and lifts their bottom for maximum penetration to hit P or G Spot and easy access to pleasure points.

Looking for more inspiration check out our Couple’s 100 challenge game!

What do you do when your partner seems to want sex all the time? Or maybe you’re the one trying to heat things up but your partner keeps throwing water on the fire?

Mismatched libidos are very common in relationships. In fact, no couple is going to bring the same heat every single time. Fear not, differing sex drives do not mean the relationship is doomed. They just mean it might be time to reflect on, and readjust, the sex you’re having.

Let’s unpack what we actually mean by “libido”. Often when we’re thinking about libido, what we’re actually referring to is desire. Desire is the mental wanting to have sex. This happens in the mind (as opposed to arousal, which tends to physically show up in the body).

When sex is on the table, what is your mind telling you? Are you thinking, “YES, I can’t wait a moment longer”? Or is your brain ticking through your to-do list and saying, “Right now? Seriously? I’m still in my work clothes!”

If you’ve noticed changes in your libido or are having trouble matching a partner’s sex drive, we’re here to help you work out why and how to go about it.