1. Set some ground rules ❤️🔥
Before experimenting with talking dirty or dirty texts, it’s important to discuss with your partner any limits they might have or topics they’d rather avoid. That way, you can both go into it feeling as comfortable as possible.
Equally, if either of you find it too much at any point, it’s fine to dial it back a bit and take a break. It’s not for everyone, and you may find it’s not for you.
2. Find out what they like ❤️🔥
Part of the fun of dirty chat is getting your partner all hot under the collar, and that means finding out what they like, and what turns them on.
It could be a secret threesome fantasy that they’d love to hear you describe outloud, or it could be telling them in detail exactly how you want them to pleasure you… whatever it is, play on it, and expect things to heat up very quickly!
3. Tell them how turned on you are ❤️🔥
If you’re enjoying it, let your partner know! After all, there’s nothing hotter than knowing your other half is aroused by the things you’re saying and doing...
4. Tell them what you want to do to them (and vice versa!) ❤️🔥
When thinking of dirty things to say, it can be really exciting to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do to you.
Start off slow with things like kisses, strokes and touches, before getting into the truly naughty details… Do you want them to do you from behind? Have you been keen to try rimming?
So long as they’re comfortable, open minded and keen to hear your deepest desires, you can take your dirty chat anywhere you want it to go...
5. Try some dirty dares ❤️🔥
If you’re planning an at-home date night, why not try out some dirty dares?
You could agree on some naughty forfeits (like taking off an item of clothing) or involve toys like blindfolds and handcuffs to really heat things up.
6. Explore roleplay ❤️🔥
Roleplay is a great way to try something new with a partner, while exploring a different side of your sexuality. You never know what type of sex roleplay will inspire.
Start by making a ‘yes/no/maybe’ list with your partner, bouncing off ideas together. It’s a good opportunity to be honest and discover both where you are aligned and where you aren’t.
You can also look for inspiration on erotica websites, audio books and other platforms.
Treat it light-heartedly and remember to laugh. This is all about play, but sometimes we can have a tendency to take things too seriously and this can mean we get stuck and can feel uncomfortable.
Hold your roles lightly and remember the goal is fun!