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Having a conversation before engaging in BDSM play with your partner, allows them to think about it without the pressure to say yes in the heat of the moment. An example of how you could approach the topic with your partner is; “I've been curious about exploring BDSM together, and I was wondering how you feel about trying it with me?” Do this in a neutral space...outside of the bedroom. Discuss boundaries beforehand, establish a safe word (either non-verbal or verbal) and practice aftercare for a sexy and unforgettable encounter!

A mouth gag is an object that’s placed in a partner’s mouth (typically the submissive in BDSM play) to limit them from talking. There are several types of gags including ball gags, bit gags, open mouth gags, harness gags, dildo gags, etc. They come in all different shapes, sizes and materials.

We're excited for you! Start with a small ball gag that is made out of silicone and has holes in it to assist with breathing. Place on the submissive partner and wear it for just 15 minutes at a time to get comfortable with the feeling of having something in your mouth. Discuss a non-verbal cue beforehand if you need to stop at any point and take some time for aftercare post-play.

No worries at all babe! Before play, discuss boundaries and establish a safe cue (most likely non-verbal in this case) so that everyone is on the same page once the mouth gag is in. The safe cue could be something like tapping your partner on the shoulder 3 times or crossing your hands so they form an 'X' to stop. As the dominant (partner that is not wearing the mouth gag), make sure you are present with your partner, listening to their body language in case they signal to stop. Lastly, don't forget aftercare post-play, chat about what you did and didn't like and what you'd like to do next time.

Exciting! Start by deciding who will wear the collar (normally the submissive) and who will be in charge of the leash (the dominant). Discuss a scene and potentially some characters that you'd like to play. You may wish to incorporate some wax play, a sensual massage, internal or external stimulation through toys, a penis or fingers.

Yes, some of the handcuffs that we stock unlock using a key (hello increased spice-o-metre). However, each set of handcuffs comes with a spare set of keys (we got you babe!) so we recommend putting the spare keys somewhere safe (i.e bedside table drawer, jewellery box or on your cat's collar (this one's a joke obvs that's a bad idea...or is it?).

Whips - think Indiana Jones vibes. Sturdy handle and one long peice of flexible woven material. A whip delivers a short, sharp sting.

Flogger - think 50 shades of grey vibes. A handle with many tails or fronds made from suede, leather, rubber or nylon. A flogger is a versatile toy for impact play used for tickling, whipping and tracking along your partner’s body.

Aim for the juicy parts of the body - booty, legs, breasts and arms. Avoid the lower back, stomach, joints and neck.

Of course! Make sure you trust the person and feel comfortable to safely and consensually explore BDSM with them. We'd recommend communicating openly, discussing boundaries beforehand, establishing a safe cue (either non-verbal or verbal) and practising aftercare for a sexy and unforgettable encounter!

Oh you're in for quite the treat! There are four ways you can use rope during partnered play - restraint (tying your partner's hand and/or feet), bondage (immobilizing your partner entirely), sensation play (using the rope as a physical touch cue) and impact play (using the rope as a whip or flogger).

This type of play dabbles in pain being a source of pleasure. If you the wearing the nipple clamps and they feel uncomfortable (in an unpleasurable way), try adjusting them so they sit at the base of the nipple. If it still hurts, try decreasing the intensity. Leave on there for a minute or two and see if that hits the spot, otherwise take them off and call it a day with the nipple clamps! Nipple clamps aren't everyone's cup of tea, you may feel like wearing them one day and not the next and that's totally okay!

Yes...when used correctly! It's important to know the difference between pleasurable pain and pain when it comes to any form of BDSM play. Check in with yourself and your partner frequently throughout the play to gauge where you are at with the intensity. Secondly, make sure you put the clamps on correctly. Open the clamp up, slide it to the base of the areola and then slowly tighten. Leave it on for a minute or two and then adjust to the desired intensity. Start with just having them on your nipples for a couple of minutes and build up as you feel comfortable. If at any point your nipples start to turn blue, take them off. P.S. When you take them off, don't yank them!

Not at all - nipple clamps are very safe to use and don't affect your ability to breastfeed in the future. However, we recommend that you don't wear them for any longer than 30 minutes if they are loose and 15 minutes if they are tight.

They are sexy af...need we say more? Nipple clamps also provide hands free stimulation, intensify orgasm and are a bangin accessory in BDSM relationship or scene.

Find yourself some nipple clamps that are adjustable (think butterfly, alligator or tweezer style). We stock a collection of nipple clamps that are beginner friendly to dip your toes (or should we say nips!) into the world of nipple stimulation.

Of course! Here are some tips for our sensitive skin babes: - Cover the impact area in a towel or wear clothes to reduce intensity and redness to the skin
- Avoid targeting one area repeatedly, instead give some lovin’ to multiple areas of the body
- Practice aftercare - this may include applying an ice pack or (sensually?!) rubbing some aloe vera on the impacted area to reduce redness or swelling