A suction vibrator can take some getting used to because it is so different from other vibrators. Take your time and don’t give up if it doesn’t feel right on the first try - trust us, it’s worth the wait. Here are our tips on getting started:
1. Get In The Mood
Sex starts in the brain. Clear your mind of any stressors and commit to your pleasure (we know, easier said than done). Focusing on your breath or noticing how your body feels can help you get there. Try sexual affirmations such as “I deserve to feel good” or “I dedicate time to my pleasure”. Clean your room, light a candle, and create a sensual space that makes you feel safe.
2. Add Some Foreplay
Foreplay is not just for partners and penetrative sex. Explore the various erogenous zones on your body by touching areas such as your neck, chest, hips, and thighs. When you’re ready to take things down to where the magic happens, start with your hands. It’s always good to touch the entire genitals yourself first before using a toy on the clitoris. Tease yourself!
3. Use Lube
Extend the foreplay a little longer by adding some lube to the entire genitalia, focusing on the clitoris. This step must not be missed! Lube is a self pleasure essential, even for external toys. For clitoral suction vibes in particular, lube takes things up a notch by making the idea of mimicking oral sex feel more realistic. Lubrication is guaranteed to level up your solo play!
4. Start Slow & Low
Start on the lowest setting and see how it feels before turning up the intensity or trying different modes. The beauty of a clitoral suction vibe is that it’s subtle and not direct. Because of the seal the toy creates on the clit, you don’t need to apply hard pressure. Allow some time to feel the sensations. Higher settings mean higher speed, but the faster the setting, the less suction-like the vibrations feel. Be patient and focus on relaxing your entire body to feel the good vibrations.
5. Adjust The Settings
As you become familiar with the toy and confident in the buttons, get a feel for the other settings. Many clitoral stimulators have multiple functions, often with (+) and (-) buttons to adjust the level or buttons to change the mode. VUSH's Clitoral Vacuum Vibrator has 40 personalised pleasure settings with steady suction vibrations and different pattern modes, so there’s bound to be something you love.
6. Explore Pressure, Positions & Parts
Along with the various settings on the toy, don’t forget to adjust your positioning too! Try lying on your back with your legs open or flipping over to lie on your stomach. You can even adjust the pressure of the toy based on how you’re holding it (remember to try it slightly further away from the clit to create that seal). You can even angle it on its side since some people find their clitoris more sensitive on one side compared to the other. If your toy is waterproof, use it in the bath or shower! And don’t forget, while clitoral suckers are designed for the clitoris, they can also be used on other body parts, such as the nipples.
7. Invite A Partner
Don’t gatekeep the fun - invite a partner! Small, handheld clitoral vibrators are great for partnered use because they don’t get in the way of penetrative sex. Clitoral vacuums can also be used during mutual masturbation. If your partner has a vulva too, why not get one each? Alternatively, the vibrator can be used on the clit while a partner pleasures the rest of the vulva, vagina, and anus with their hands, mouth, or genitals.
8. Relax And Enjoy
Once you get in the habit of using your new toy, we have no doubt you’ll start to feel very good very soon. If you do feel an orgasm coming on, breathe into it and let it happen. Alternatively, try edging - this is a technique where you take the intensity down a notch before orgasm to delay the finish, then bring it back up when you’re ready to orgasm. The various speeds and patterns on a vibrator make this process easier since you can go down a level or switch to a patterned mode to extend your solo play, then increase the pleasure settings when you’re ready to orgasm.
If you don’t feel like you’re going to finish, don’t stress - masturbation and sex doesn’t always have to end in orgasm! Pleasure and orgasm are not always synonymous and can exist separately from each other. If it feels good and gets you hot and heavy (or alternatively, rested and relaxed), then it’s doing its job.
9. Rinse And Repeat
The final step in the self pleasure process is to clean your toys so you can do it all again ASAP. Many suction vibrators are made from silicone, which should be rinsed with warm water and a gentle soap or sex toy cleaner. Be careful when rinsing the head of a vacuum vibrator - if the product is not fully waterproof then this could mess with the mechanics of the toy.
